Being in love is the most empowering, transformative thing. I spent a very large portion of 2020 in lockdown with my boyfriend in our flat in South London; our world – and the world of many others – suddenly reshaped and shifted. The liminal sense of time blurring the boundaries between days, between our mornings and evenings. So much seemed uncertain, and we each had concerns about our professional futures, but the bond between us did not sway. Some days were testing and hard, but I immediately began to experience love and affection in the little things.
I feel very lucky to have been able to experience lockdown with my partner, as so many could not. Valentine’s Day has long been associated with its own clichés – think boxes of red roses, suspenders and stockings, pralines in glittery foil, candlelit dinners in tightly packed restaurants. Yet the long-held belief that single women spend
Valentine’s Day curled up in bed; hiding under the duvet whilst eating a full tub of ice cream; crying at a 90s Rom Com (à la Bridget Jones) is outdated and, for the most part, untrue.
Whether we’re in a relationship, a ‘situationship’ or completely single, the majority of us will be spending Love Day 2021 at home.
This may sound like a cliché in itself, but creating our own self care ritual has never felt more important. I watched my body become much softer than usual during lockdown, and I welcomed this. Such ‘softness’ is tantamount to self acceptance: to be soft and gentle with ourselves is the very nature of self care, and for the first time, I loved my softer body as it was keeping me alive. Staying in tune with our bodies and recognising what we need on a particular day – whether a home workout, salads or chocolate; a long walk or staying curled up in bed – each is as necessary as the former.
Though modern celebrations for St Valentine may be viewed as an excuse for unnecessary consumerism by some, or treated as any normal day by others, holidays have certainly taken on new meanings for many. Lula believes love in all of its forms should be celebrated in 2021 – the romantic, the familial, the love between friends and ultimately, the love for ourselves and our bodies.